How to Sleep the Night Before Your Wedding – Even if You’re Stressed

It has been the longest time since I have last posted something in my blog. But, I’m so excited to be back at it again! To kick it off, I am sure you will love this guest blog post as much as I do. I absoltely love to sleep, so many of these points really resonated with me and I just want to thank Amy Highland, a sleep expert at, for taking the time to write this article.


You’ve made it to the night before your big day, and you can’t sleep. Have you noticed yourself focusing on the negatives of your wedding – the number of people who can’t attend, or the venue that you missed out on? Have you been overthinking all of the little decisions about the wedding, like the color of the ribbon in your centerpieces, and procrastinating on the big ones? Have you caught yourself being snippy with your bridal party and your spouse to be?

Those are all signs of being stressed about your wedding. Stress before your marriage ceremony is incredibly common, and known to lead to straining relationships – even the one you’re working so hard to celebrate!

Chances are, you’re spending the night in a hotel or an unfamiliar bed. There isn’t a lot you can do to change that hotel room, but you can adjust it to make it more comfortable and less stressful.

If you can, turn the temperature in the room down, and turn on the fan. Scientists have found that the best temperature to sleep in is between 60 and 67 degrees Fahrenheit, and dropping the temperature down can help tell your body to go to sleep.

If you can get the fan to turn on, you’ll be in even better shape. Moving air has been found to help you get a higher quality sleep – something you need to make it through your wedding day.

If neither of those is helping, try spraying some lavender or jasmine around the room. These scents have been found to be calming – which helps with both your anxiety and your heart rate.

If you find yourself getting restless, try doing some simple yoga exercises. You can find a routine on YouTube or through an app that will guide you through the stretches that can help your muscles relax. You don’t want to do anything too vigorous, but yoga combines mindfulness, deep breathing, and exercise in a way that helps your emotional, physical and mental state and decrease stress. Some yoga poses, like child’s pose or legs up the wall, can be done on a mattress that is medium or firm, but you should be aware that these poses may be more difficult on a soft memory foam bed.

If all of that still doesn’t help, and counting sheep has failed you – pull out a piece of paper or your phone and write down the thoughts that are racing through your brain. Whatever you’re thinking, put it down. Whether it’s “what if they leave me at the altar?” or “what if Uncle John forgets to pick up Grandma?” putting it down in front of you helps your brain to think that the thought’s been dealt with. Make sure to end that journal entry with all of the things you’re excited about for tomorrow so that you can think about the positives as you drift off.

You can also have a conversation with your spouse-to-be about how excited you are to be getting married. Talk through the reasons you’re anxious and ask them to take some of the things off of your plate. Remind yourself that there’s a reason you’re putting the two of you through all the stress of a big, fancy wedding, and try and get some sleep.

Amy Highland is a sleep expert at She loves taking naps during thunderstorms and cuddling up with a blanket, book, and cats. 

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