What to Expect When Being a Bridesmaid – Financial Matters

Useful Tips BridesmaidImage Credit: Joanne Markland Photography

Being a bridesmaid is one of the biggest privileges; what an honour to play such a special part in someone’s big day! Along with all the festivities and fun, the financial implications can often be more than anticipated. Thus it is the brides’ responsibility to let her bridesmaids know exactly what she expects of them financially. This gives them the opportunity to prepare ahead of time.

There has always been a clear understanding (to a certain extent) that the bridesmaids are responsible for some expenses. Generally they pay for the kitchen tea, and some elements of the bachelorettes party. However, more often than not, there is uncertainty about who is responsible for paying for the bridesmaids’ dresses, shoes, accessories and hair and make-up.

In the past the bride was considered the responsibility of the bride to pay for everything. As time has progressed, the financial responsibility has shifted onto the bridesmaids in most cases. It is now seen as absolutely acceptable to ask your bridesmaids to pay for their dresses, hair and make-up and all the other goodies. If this is the route you decide to go with, there are certain key elements to keep in mind when making decisions on behalf of your wedding party.

Simone_Meyer_Bridal_Wedding_Dress_Cape_Town_Kyle_KrigeImage Credit: Kyle Krige Photography

Something to keep in mind:

  1. Your bridesmaids are not the ones getting married. Even though they love and support you, keep in mind that they probably have a budget to work within. This budget will have to pay for your kitchen tea, and possibly even for your bachelorettes party. Do not expect your bridesmaids to buy the best and most expensive dress, shoes, etc. This can easily put your bridesmaids in an uncomfortable position, as they might not be able to afford it. All the expenses can end up being a heavy financial burden.
  1. If your bridesmaids are paying for their own dresses, try to give them a little freedom when it comes to certain aspects of the dress design. Decide upon a colour scheme and ask them to stick to certain limitations. Suggest that they stick to a certain design style (long / short dresses, flowy, etc.). Give them the opportunity to choose certain elements within that style (sleeves, neckline, etc.) that compliments their figures as individuals. This will make them feel beautiful and they will love you for it!
  1. Keep in mind that your bridesmaids might want to wear their dresses again. This is especially the case if it was a big expense. Steer clear of the Lady Gaga inspired outfits, and choose a wearable design.
  1. If one of your girls lets you know that they cannot afford something that you want them to have, be open to more affordable solutions. Always remember to treat the situation with the necessary discretion and respect.

Have fun planning your wedding, and remember that having your bridesmaids by your side is as much a privilege to you as it is to them. Always treat them the way that you would like to be treated.

One thought on “What to Expect When Being a Bridesmaid – Financial Matters

Leave a Reply